Defloration 101. How to break hymen right.
March 30, 2008 – 12:33 pm
Men often get very surprised after they had sex with virgin. Some even may ask a girl they just fucked - “Are you sure you are a virgin? You hymen doesn’t seem to be intact”. These question arise because men heard to many fake stories about virgin defloration. The most popular myth says that defloration is a very painful and dramatic event for woman. It is generally believed that girl feels some pain, sometimes quit strong, then hymen breaks with very distinct sound and then hymen blood pours out of the pussy. In many cultures hymen blood is considered as mandatory element of the first night. Without some virgin blood on the sheets marriage is not valid. Blood-stained sheets are put out for observation to prove that the bride was really virgin.
Many men now days share these believes. When they have sex with a virgin they expect a lot of hymen blood, pain and hymen popping sound. When they certainly get surprised when their girlfriends don’t feel much pain and don’t bleed after defloration. Naturally some guys start suspect that girl wasn’t really a virgin and her hymen was intact. But everyone should be aware that losing virginity is not always painful and not always accompanied by lots of hymen blood. As a matter of fact, when defloration is performed properly it should not be very painful and bloody.
The right was to determine if your girl is a virgin is to check her pussy before the first sex, not after the first sex. As you know, hymen is a little membrane covering enter to vagina. Hymen is very elastic and can easily stretch. All girls have hymens of different type. Some might have a large hymen that covered the whole opening while others have a very small hymen. And some women don’t have hymen at all. One commonly believed myth says that hymen securely protects enter to girl’s vagina and no object can get inside without breaking it. When you try to penetrate virgin pussy hymen feels like tight elastic barrier which can slightly stretch as you apply some pressure. And there are two ways to penetrate the virgin hymen. You can press hard enough and simply poke through the virgin membrane. Or you can repeatedly perform the frictions and stretching the hymen eventually rubbing it away.
Since hymen can stretch you can break it very gently and almost without pain. Here are some simple rules for painless defloration:
- you and your girl must move very slowly
- both partners should use plenty of lubricant
- girl must be constantly aroused - don’t stop caressing your virgin.
- be very gentle and follow her body moves
- always tell her what you are going to do. Try to convince your virgin girlfriend that the act of defloration can be pleasant and painless.
- agree before hand that she will let you know if it starts hurting her. Make sure you stop when your girl fells oain and continues only when your virgin is ready.
- insert your fingers in the pussy first. Try to stretch it and only then insert your penis. When your girl starts feeling pain - stop your moves immediately and continue to stimulate her and continue frictions only when your girl is hot and aroused again. You must follow the same rules when making anal sex with a girl.
The general rules for successful defloration of a virgin girl are quit simple:
- make sure your girl is aroused and always try to keep her hot
- don’t rush! Move slowly and gently.
Defloration without pain is possible, just keep the right pace. Perhaps you main job during the act of defloration is to keep her relaxed, aroused and comfortable. Never stop caress her pussy but don’t forget about her other erotic zones - breasts, lips, wrists etc. Every once in a while switch her attention from pussy and frictions to her breasts, nipples, neck or lips. But even when you start playing with her other erotic zones, don’t stop stimulating your girl’s pussy with hands. When your virgin gets horny her pussy will swell and get wet. These pussy juices will help your penis slide smoothly into her vagina right to the hymen. But sometimes the natural pussy juices are not enough. In this case don’t hesitate to add some lubricant to make her pussy wet and smooth before you enter.
Lubrication is the key to successful defloration. Any sexual intercourse (vagina, anal or oral) can be painful without lubrication. When hymen is wet it can stretch a lot more than the dry one. The dry hymen can only tear causing pain. And remember - there is no need to rush during defloration! Be patient and you will do it right. Sometimes you can easily break a virgin hymen and sometimes you need to have several defloration session with your girl. So just be patient.
You must constantly follow the same pattern - caress her, arouse her, enter her virgin pussy, retreat - then repeat all steps again. If you follow these rules you’ll see that as you continue to caress her pussy it becomes wider, softer and more flexible. This means you are on the right way for smooth, pleasant and painless defloration.
